Frida – A friend I never knew
These past couple of months I have thought a lot about a girl called Frida Hagdahl. She was a friend but I did not know her. She was what you call an ”acquaintance”. I met her at the most 10 times. At my friend Lotta Fischer Levén’s bachelorette party, at Lotta and Mats’ wedding in 2010, at festivals, KGB (the club in Stockholm she co-owned together with Hokan Pettersson and Fredde Lindberg) etc. She made a solid impression back then: Energetic, happy, funny, charming, kind, curious and cool. Knowing me, I would have embraced her and her friendship right there, because those are the kind of people who I like to have in my life. But for some reason time flew by and we never got closer than that. Last week I went to her funeral at the St Matteus Church. She had been struggling for six months with incurable lung cancer that quickly spread to her bones and finally her head. March 8 she departed this transitory life and entered upon an eternal sabbath of rest, only 36 years old.
She wrote a very sincere and detailed blog about her journey. FridaKGB Blogg>> It made me burst into tears many times… How she could seem so calm, organized and so honest about everything… knowing her days were counted. She was so ill and yet seemed so full of life. It felt incomprehensible with no way to really relate to what she was going through. I mean how do you deal with knowledge like that? I heard and saw the sadness in all our mutual friends and often thought about her family and relatives. Their pain… How unbearable the grief and anguish must have been and how tremendously they must miss her today :(
Last week, Thursday March 3, I decided to go to her funeral. I was little confused about whether it was proper or not to go to the funeral of someone you did not know so well. But close friends of Frida, said that I should go, to support them and pay my respects. It was absolutely beautiful. I have never seen som many people in a funeral ever. You could tell right away this person had made an impact on many lives and a summary from the priest and all her friends gave me a clear picture that I had really missed out. I should have known her better as she was clearly one of those unique persons that you refer to as a ”keeper”. Anyway, it felt really good to be there among friends and all the humble love that was in the air. Beautiful music was performed by Mats Levén and Mia Coldheart and time stood still for a while leaving no eyes dry. My condolence to her family and boyfriend, friends and colleagues. R.I.P Frida
Me and Frida at Sweden Rock Festival 2012. Photo by: Tina Huttenlocher
I lost my father, my aunt Alicia and my good friend Rigmor Malmsten in a way to early age to this despicable disease – Earth life closed – My friend Ludde Lindström has just been through a tough surgery after receiving the grim news of kidney cancer. We are all hoping the cancer stays the hell away and that he recovers well. Please support and feel the commitment for this organization or any other project that helps us get a step closer to finding cures for cancer, to achieve a higher survival rate and a reduction in the incidence of cancer, as we all, without exceptions are somehow affected in many ways sometime in life… one way or another.
CANCERFONDEN >> – The Swedish Cancer Society is an independent non-profit organization.
ROCK AGAINST CANCER >> – This is a charity project for the benefit of research in cancer. Behind it is Peter Knutsson. He lost his mother and now recently his father in cancer. Together with a bunch of enthusiastic Swedish rockers he organizes concerts and different kinds of projects in various places. All the revenue will go in full and directly to the cancer society!
Auction to benefit Cancer Society – Swedish rockers have donated really cool stuff that you all can be owners of. Check it out!
FUCK CANCER is also a nonprofit organization that started in one of my other home regions Huntington Beach. Their motto: FIGHT, No One FIGHTS Alone!
They have really cool ”Fuck Cancer” merch that you can buy to support: I’m getting myself a cool tank top today!!
Get yours here >>